It does not matter how old you are, how “experienced” you are with people, or where you live: you will always find yourself meeting toxic people. You will go out to parties, talk to someone, maybe think that you made a friend. A few weeks later, they will stop contacting you. These days, the popular kids call this action “ghosting.” We all do it at some point. Whether we find someone too annoying to continue to talk to – but do not want to tell them – or we simply do not want to talk to someone anymore, we often stop communications abruptly, rather than peacefully ending the relationship. But although we all do this at one point in our lives, we need to be careful of those people out there who can be classified as “toxic.”
Toxic people only care for themselves
Think about your best friend. The person that you hangout with the most, who you do everything with. You can count on them to be there when you are down in the dumps, and you always make sure to do the same for them.
But toxic people do not care about you. They only want to do what they think is best. You will be used by them, for they want something that you have or can offer, but do not want to put in the time or effort to reciprocate.
For me, this often meant people “ghosting” me after doing portrait photography. I would find myself contacting people in hopes of them modeling for me; those that would, often would stop communicating with me after receiving the images. They would post them online for all their followers to see, but would not give me credit. Of course, I would often be stupid enough to go back to these same people in hopes of expanding my portfolio some more. I mean, it didn’t hurt that bad, right?
Identify the toxic people and throw them out
Before you get hurt by these people, you need to identify who it is that is toxic within your friend group. It is up to you to figure this out – it can be tough at first – but once you find them, you need to get rid of them. They will not help you in any way, shape, or form later in life.
Your true friends are the ones who will push you to be the best form of you that you can be.